I realized not that long ago that I have been chasing some dreams and not getting anywhere and I couldn’t figure out why.
At least that is what I told myself.
When I had the courage to ask myself some tough questions and pause long enough to really look at what I was doing it really seemed like I what I was really doing was chasing my tail rather than my dreams.
So, I had to ask myself what the deal was. Why was I feeling very ‘busy’ but getting nothing done in terms of moving forward with some things.
Busy doesn’t mean productive. Do I really have to explain this? I think we know deep down when we are being ‘busy busy’ but not being real. Procrastination loves this aspect of itself.
I was chasing something but never catching it. This plan had to change if anything was going to be achieved I knew that. The hard part was being really honest with myself and not beating myself up at the same time.
Mindful examination without judgment…wow. Powerful stuff…and really tricky at times.
Still I decided to STOP chasing my dreams altogether. This doesn’t mean I’m not still planning on achieving my dreams – no way I’d give that up!
What is means is I’m no longer blindly running around hoping to fall into what I need. Fact is even if I had I’d probably have kept running around unable to recognize it anyway.
So I stopped chasing. I started pulling my dreams towards me with conscious deliberate steps. Mutual attraction is so much more powerful.
I asked myself what do I need to get ‘here’. Then, how can I get what I need.
Two very simple, very powerful questions that stopped the chase.
Now I’m walking purposefully towards what I want. I know what I am doing to get there. The blinders are off, the chasing has stopped and I no longer am waiting to fall into something. I’m making it happen.
For the record one of my dreams – now a concrete goal – is to train to be an ICF certified Wellness Coach. More tools, more skills, more people to serve. Although I am already a certified coach I really felt limited by my own skill set and wanted to get DEEPER.
I’m doing that right now. In about 6 months I’ll have nailed that goal down because I asked myself what I needed (training) and how I can get that (research schools, talk to people) and then I submitted my application. I was approved and started just recently.
It’s like waking up in your own bed after being away for a time. It just feels right and perfect.
If you are chasing your dreams maybe it’s time for you to stop too. Give up the chase and start the path of striding with all sorts of confidence towards what you want and need.