We all want to feel happy; at least most of the time. Seems like more of us are not though. I think I know what at least a big part of the problem may lie.
I hear a lot of people doing the ‘if only…’ or ‘as soon as…” routines though when it comes to why they think they are not happy right here, right now. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. Saying things like “I’ll be happy as soon as I get that promotion” or “If only I were taller I’d be so much happier“. First bit of truth today…this doesn’t work!
I can admit it; I’ve said things like this before. I’d bet my morning coffee that you’ve said a version of these as well. Well I have only one thing to say to that.
CUT IT OUT
There. How’s that for straight talk?
The thing is when you use these phrases you are taking away your own power and choosing not to be happy today.
You have many things to be happy about right now, right here today if you only shift your mindset to one of gratitude instead of one of want. Think that promotion will bring you the happiness you crave? Try again. Oh sure you get the fleeting pleasure but then you have to deal with learning the new ropes, added workload, more responsibility. Now what are you going to go ahead and wait for in order to be happy?
You can’t wait on happiness because tomorrow everything can change. We must be careful that in our pursuit of happiness that we don’t forget to notice when we’ve found it.