Nothing Can Hold You Back
February 3, 2012 by Bonnie - Mindset Mentor!
What’s holding you down? Or back..whatever you want to call it?
Do you even know?
Could it be…you?
“The weeds keep multiplying in our garden, which is our mind ruled by fear. Rip them out and call them by name.” ~ Sylvia Browne
At some point you have to realize that you can be your own toughest critic, hardest judge and worst blockade. I know when I finally started to face the pieces of my life I didn’t like, or made me uncomfortable, it was incredibly hard.
It is human nature to want to avoid that which makes us uncomfortable and certainly that which hurts us. Problem is we can’t avoid ourselves. At least not for long and certainly not if we want to have a life we are living and not just marking time in.
You have another choice.
You can face that which you despise the most and force it to change. Yes things happen in our lives we cannot control. Trust me. After the last few years I can attest that really crappy stuff can happen and there isn’t much you can do to stop it. Just very recently I had my car stolen. Now it isn’t super fancy or brand new but it has been mine for a long time, I worked
hard to pay for it and took exceptional care of it. That stung. A lot.
Someone pointed out to me that I’ve had a long rough patch of things that just aren’t fair. Oh yes, I almost started down that path of ‘life is soo unfair to me’. Okay…I admit it I had a few moments that first night. Tears, worry, fear…all of it. In truth, the night it was discovered missing, I was a mess.
However, it didn’t take that long before I felt really calm. My practice of looking for the positive, allowing life to unfold and see the opportunity..it all kicked in. Can I be honest here? It was kind of weird. Almost as if I was experiencing things through someone else’s mind. But it was my own. Please understand that it’s not that I suddenly became okay with it. Nope, I’m still kinda peeved that some jerk is touching my car, my stuff and might be making money off it! But I also know that is not going to help me. I have chosen to let that anger go out into the universe and instead focus on what I still have to be grateful for.
I never once, in a million year thought I would excited because my car was stolen! Okay, it was more about being excited about my reaction to it. My practice has started to become my normal way of behaving..whohoo!
So you know what, life does suck sometimes. It can seem cruel and unfair and really tough. But you know what I have found out? It’s not about that. It is however, all about how you choose to react to all that stuff. That is what creates the life you are really living. I love that quote I posted above. Our life being a garden is the perfect metaphor to think about. We are the master of the garden. We choose what stays, what grows, what is ripped out by the roots and what might just be pruned back. We can allow others into our garden or choose to keep all others out. We choose what we water and what we ignore and let die. I am letting the anger and upset whither and die and instead I’m cultivating a more peaceful way of living.
What we are, and how we react, is based on our way of thinking. What we believe about our garden and what it should be like. We can actively choose our beliefs.
Nothing in life is holding you back or down as much as you can be. Let go of those things. Choose what you grasp tightly too and these are the things your life will follow. Choose things that uplift and inspire you. Hold tightly to those and let go of those things in your life that bring you down.