Posts Tagged ‘joyful living’

Simply put, the key to happiness is to stop looking for the freaking key to happiness.

The fact is, the doors have never been locked up in the first place.  There is nothing to wait for.  You can open the doors to that sort of life anytime you choose.

Maybe you have lofty goal and plans.  So do I.  Trust me, if you could see the vision of my life that is taking shape right now, I know  a lot of you would wonder at my sense of reality and sanity.

That’s okay.  I get it. I’m dreaming really big these days and not everyone is ready for that.  I think I’ll just let them wonder until they see me taking strides and steps and moving closer and closer.  After all, showing is far more believable than telling right?

Still, I’m really happy today too.  I’m not going to sit around waiting on something to ‘let’ me be happy.  Or for some magical goal to get crossed off, or threshold to be crossed or please…certainly not for the proverbial knight in shining armor to come ’round and save the day.

Seriously.  Why wait?  There really isn’t anything you need to wait for!  I’ve discovered that happiness isn’t a destination anyway.  It’s not something you can go out and get.  And you can never use it all up.

There is only one thing you have to do to find your own happiness.  Choose it.

Allow yourself to decide that you are already happy.  Be grateful for all the blessings you have in your life and love your people right here today.

It’s always been within you, waiting for you to let it loose and choose to jump in with both feet.

happyIf you want to be happy, then be happy.

Start by smiling.  Too many of us don’t smile because we wonder what others will think.  You know what they will think?  Wow, she’s such a happy person.  And then they will wonder how they to can be happy just like you; and maybe, just maybe they will start smiling too.

Then look what you did.  You are a carrier of the happiness virus and you are spreading it all over the freakin place.

I’m not sure when humanity got everything so bloody mixed up.  We all say we want to feel happy and joy and love.  Yet, we hesitate, we worry about reactions and we push down those feelings so they don’t get out of hand.  That makes no sense.  We celebrate and admire those who are postitive people that make life joyous, yet we are hesitant to allow ourselves to do the same.

Don’t you find it weird we all seem to think that negative emotions like sadness, anger and frustrations are okay to be talked about and seem to be more socially accepted?  And a lot of the time we feel the need to keep our happiness and joyful feelings ‘under control’ or dampened?  Like we don’t want to bother anyone with them?

Okay so it’s your turn.  I’d love to hear your take on why that is in the comments below.



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There are so many people wandering around this world worried about what others might think if they do this or do that.  They aren’t living fully because of this worry.

It breaks my heart to see people hold back on living in case it upsets another person.  You know what I say to that?  Screw that! 

Here’s what I have learned that I really want you to know.  First, anyone who is upset because you are happy and showing it has deeper problems than you can know.  This is not your stuff.  We all have enough grief in life and we really ought to take the happy times and live them fully and wildly.

Secondly, in my experience, most of the time, other people love to be around those who are able to let go and express joy.  It’s almost as if seeing you do it, gives them permission to lighten up a little too.

For some reason it seems that we are addicted to doom and gloom.  As if refusing to let the happy in and show it, we are preventing any other extremes from happening.  Kind of like that old saying waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I have some news.  Ignoring the joys of today will not prevent the sadness of tomorrow…it just wastes the gifts you have right now. If that proverbial shoe is going to drop it will drop anyway.  You can deal with it if and/or when it happens.

There are times when we are sad, when restraint is needed but I think we have taken it way to far.  My friends…my adult friends…get over yourself and your own egoand have some fun. 

Go on and run through the sprinkler with or with out kids…still feels good on a hot day.  Laugh out loud; stop trying to keep it quiet…let it out! Be a little silly, play with puppies, make a puppet show happen, toss the football around, sing along and loud with the radio and dance while you sweep the floor. 

Take the gifts of laughter, joy and fun and let them reign; let the crappy days be the ones that are out of the norm…let them be the exceptions.

Laugh and smile because you can…and share your joyful spirit with others.

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