There is an interesting concepts being talked about these days and it centers around a lack of leadership; in the country, the government, our companies etc.
Let’s start this by clarifying what I mean. There is a definite difference between a leader and a figurehead. This is most easily shown and understood I think if we start by looking at an organization.
I’m sure we’ve all been in a position to have some experience with a person who is in a high level position that should require them to be a strong leader; but they are not. I know I’ve wondered how the heck some people rise up to slide into these positions, but that’s another whole set of blog posts!
You see, there is a huge difference in someone who is a leader and someone who is simply taking up space in the boardroom.
A figurehead fills a seat, perhaps they are good at getting some paperwork done, finding ‘projects’ to do and what have you. They may even motivate their staff from time to time by – and I quote – “lighting a fire under their butts”. Fear based motivation does work; sort of. I’ve covered that in previous posts but suffice to say it’s not long-lasting and the results are lower than if the motivation was intrinsic.
A true leader – well they don’t even have to be the top dog in an organization. The real leader in any situation is simply the person who has the most influence, regardless of what their actual title or position is in a company.
Now I’m sure you’re saying that’s all very well and good, but what’s the point right? This blog isn’t about leadership in organizations now is it?
The point is we can use that comparison to learn something about how we are handling our own personal lives.
No matter what you do, how you do it or where you are in life you are the leader in your own life. The question only remains around what kind of leader you are and how well you do it.
You make the choices, the decisions and decide the path that your life will take. The question is how much influence are you putting out there on your life? Or are you allowing others influence to be the main determiner?
While there is nothing wrong with learning from others, or getting advice we must be careful to view these folks as advisors to our own choices rather than assume they know what’s best for us and simply become the ‘yes’ men.
We should be exacting the most influence upon our own life. Otherwise we’re really acting more like the figurehead in a business who motivates from fear, isn’t confident that they know best and who must micro-manage everything in order to avoid actually DOING anything of any real consequence. They just look like the boss…but in reality…not so much.
So perhaps it’s time to start deciding who’s running this life. This is what is meant by taking back your power…it means being the true leader in your life. Knowing where you want to take things based on your mission, values and goals. It means knowing that you know exactly what is best for you and being okay with taking those risks. It means listening but ultimately knowing that this life is yours and yours alone.
When you trust that you do have the answers; when your find the courage to listen to that intuitive voice and follow your own light you will find amazing things happen.
Stand up tall, take a breath and know that you already are an amazing leader and person. You got yourself this far…now step up and take it further! Trust yourself and Be YOU.