That’s ok. You read it correctly, it just sounds a bit odd.
What I’m trying to get at is that there is an awful lot of hidden negativity in our thinking and in our words. It isn’t that I think we should say ‘yes’ to everything, far from it. Instead let’s try to frame what we say in a more positive way.
Think about this. You are headed into your boss to suggest a great idea that will save the company thousands of dollars every month. Excited? I suspect so! Now you knock on the door and poke your head in big smile on your face and ask “can I talk to you for a moment?” Now imagine your boss looks up and simply says “No” and gets back to his computer. Ouch, that kind of deflates everything you were feeling doesn’t it? I’d bet some of us wouldn’t even bother to try again later. What if instead your boss said “give me a couple of minutes to finish this up and then I can talk ok?”. Not so painful and you most likely will return to share your idea.
So while I’m not advocating refusing service or refusing to do something, I am instead suggesting we try not to use the word “NO”. Just strike it from our vocabulary.
Certainly we have heard it enough as children right? Like a billion times before we hit three years old. It seems to lose its effectiveness after a while just like anything else. How sad is it that a great majority of children learn NO as their first word? The little parrots hear it so much it is no wonder!
You think it’s easy? Not as much as you’d think. I have been working on this for over a week and find myself slipping a lot. I wonder how many times a day we add to the negativity in our world this way?
Here are some other examples of times you can pull the switch:
Do you want to see a movie tonight? No Could we stay in and rent one instead?
Can I borrow your car? No I don’t feel comfortable with that plan.
So this is my challenge and I’d love to hear from you. Let’s get rid of some of the disconnect and negativity and say no to NO. Join me in my quest to rid it from my vocabulary and switch it up to a more positive, warm answer. Share with me some of your experiences in getting rid of “no” in the comment box below!