Only second? I don’t think so

I’ve been pretty busy this past week or so and sadly haven’t been able to catch much of the Olympics in London. I end up seeing results or what’s happening on Twitter or the news.

I love seeing the write ups and video commentary on the athletes. It’s all very inspiring and uplifting to see how hard they have worked.

Then there are the jerks. (Yes, I said jerks…my favourite word these days for a person who can’t contain their negativity).

So many headlines that read something like “athlete comes up short to only get a silver medal” What?? ONLY?? Geesh this person is SECOND IN THE WORLD and most likely by a split hair of a millisecond. And the kicker is the person writing this most likely is not even a silver medalist themselves.

So what happened to the joyous celebration before the competition? What happened to being proud of our sons and daughters for all that they accomplish, overcome and the work they do? Suddenly it’s not good enough?

Bollocks.

This is a lot of what’s wrong with our own attitudes towards ourselves.

Guess what? Play that game again, swim one more lap or dive once more round and it all could change. Just like life…it can all change very easily. Even if you attain perfection (and good luck with that) it is very fleeting.

The goal is not and should not be the end all, be all of your world. Your essence is not a moment in time. You are the accumulation of millions of moments; some good and some bad.

You are so much more than missing a target now and again so why define yourself by it?

I hope instead of “only second’ we can change that to “holy crap they are freakin second!-They ROCKED it!” (read with a very excited voice please). And I hope you can change that way of thinking for yourself too. In fact I hope we can change it to “holy crap, look how hard they’ve worked, how far they’ve come and what great people they are”. But one step at a time.

Cuz baby…you are rocking this life! Love yourself for it; celebrate all that you have and all that you are. There is always another day, another play and another player.

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My Self what?

Self Esteem is often used interchangeably is Self Worth.

These are not the same things, although they are very closely related.

Self Worth is our perception of our abilities, competencies and power. It is what we think we are worth and often what we think others consider to be our worth. It’s what we believe our usefulness and abilities are. It tells us where our limits lie.

Our Self Esteem comes from our Self Worth. Our Self Esteem is the judgments we put upon ourselves dictated by our self-worth. It governs our reactions, behaviors and interactions with others.

If you want to change your Self Esteem you need to change your perception of your Self Worth.

What do you think?

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What’s your thing?

Today is all about you.

It’s amazing how diverse and awesome we all are in our own ways. Too bad we often don’t acknowledge these things.

I want you to think of five things that you are great at. Make it specific and about what makes you unique! I bet we will surprise each other. Don’t forget to have a huge smile while your typing!

These are the best parts of you!

Here are my five:

1. I really enjoy and am quite good at dog training. I actually considered a career in this at the suggestion of others. Instead I trained…err taught children. Now I work with adults with life coaching.

2. I kick butt with my baked goods; especially banana bread. It makes me infinitely happy when people enjoy what I’ve baked.

3. I don’t share it often but I really love romantic literature like Keats, Wordsworth. I enjoy reading and talking about it all. I have been looking for a book club to join that studies this.

4. I scrapbook and was quite good at it. I even taught classes and had parties for people, created special books for others, made framable pages. I had to put it aside for a while but am starting to find time again. It makes me happy to be creative in this way.

5. I have a dry, slightly twisted sense of humor. I love plays on words, puns and such. I have a hard time turning it off when I meet people who just don’t get it.

So there you go. 5 things that help make me uniquely me.

Leave your 5 below too!

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