Every single person on this Earth has expectations and assumptions. We kind of have to in order to manage to get through life without losing our minds.
Think about it..we assume that the guy in the other car will stop for the red light on his side so we just buzz on through the green. But we also have assumptions about our expectations.
Mind spinning yet?
We know what we feel and desire in our heart of hearts. But we often assume that who we are in our truest form won’t be accepted by others. Many of us wear many masks and hide our dreams because of what we think is expected of us.
And we won’t break out of these roles because we fear losing our friends and even family.
So we remain, unhappy, hidden and our greatest gifts – our light – is dimmed and shuttered.
If you step back over here with me to look at this a bit differently I’d like to point out of couple of problems with this line of thinking.
First, you were not put here on this Earth to be small, dim or hidden. You have a light within you that is a gift, and you do it such a disservice by closing the shutters up tight because someone out there may not like it. You were meant to shine!
Which brings me to my next thought. Not everyone is going to like you – that is a given in life. That’s okay. Simply bless those people and move on. However, consider this. If no one knows who you truly are and they only see this facade – then in all truth – no one really likes or loves you because they don’t know you. They might like the person you are projecting, but that isn’t YOU.
You can’t lose what you don’t actually have I’m afraid. Truly if you think everyone likes you then that is a huge hint you aren’t being your truest self. You are playing roles to make others happy. I mean c’mon…even the best of us have people who dislike them!
When you allow yourself to shine, to be you in all your quirky ways, then others who will love you for those very things can find you. Until then you are just an actor on stage and people are simply loving your role…not you.
Imagine what and who you are missing. Imagine the peace and joy of releasing all that misery and self-condemnation and allowing yourself to grow into the beautiful being you were alway meant to be.
It’s okay to love you. In fact, I’m betting most people you already know will love you too if you are brave enough to give them that chance. You’ll be surprised at what happens. Take off the masks – live free.