Ooh..I haven’t had a good rant for a while.
I’m not sure what’s been going on lately, but boy I’m getting tired of people who act like they are a victim in order to be horrible to others. Justifying your crappy behaviour by acting like you have it so hard or that you are so much better or smarter or whatever and are trying to ‘help’ doesn’t make it any better. It just doesn’t.
I know, I know…some of you might be saying “that’s what you see if you spend enough time on the internet”. I wish it was just some crazy post on the net. While that might be true I haven’t seen this many people unable to ‘hear’ themselves for some time both on and off line.
The nice girl part of me wants to apologise for this rant but I’m not going to. It’s probably going to stir up some uncomfortable feelings for a few people and that’s good in my opinion. All I ask is that you try to hear the message.
I’m fed up with folks who call out others for ‘picking on them’ and in the same breath try to knock down someone else. Really? Listen to your self! I’ve had too many examples of this lately I don’t even know where to start.
I suppose a perfect example of this is what a few of my friends have posted on Facebook. Fox had some of its newscasters bash and mock Wiccan and Pagan religion. (You can see the video here) In the same breath the female reporter complains that she isn’t supposed to say Merry Christmas and infers at the plight of Christians. Sigh. I have to say I was aghast that these people were not taken to task by the network, but more importantly I was flabbergasted that they couldn’t see the conflict in what they were saying.
Or the case of listening to some adults make fun of a woman and her child because their clothes were worn and outdated. I kid you not. And in the same breath these women complain that they have such a hard time keeping up with their own childrens’ clothing wants. I’m pretty sure they saw me looking at them in confusion. Guess who is making that trendy clothing thing an issue?
And this sort of thing has happened a fair bit lately. Or maybe I’m just aware of it? I’m not sure, but it’s really bugging me.
You know it’s like when people say ‘No offense but…” and then they are really offensive? But think it’s okay because they qualified it with ‘no offense’. For the record…It Isn’t Okay!
Aggg! I get so frustrated when I see people so afraid that they might be diminished if someone else is able to hold their own differeing thoughts, opinions and beliefs. Truly if yours are so shaky they can’t handle it perhaps you need to look at that. If you feel so afraid to be the real you that you must cover it all up with “I’m a victim” and nastiness perhaps it’s time to look in the mirror and decide what it is you want to see.
Reminds me of the kid who isn’t winning and so takes his ball and goes home in a huff. Belief systems, opinions, ideas are not about winning.
Or the adult who says “but I only stated the truth” when saying something that is out of line or harsh and un-needed. Please, there is truth and there is pointedly trying to seem better than everyone and make someone feel like crap. Yes you are entitled to your opinion…but you can keep it to yourself. My grandmother used to say be kind or be quiet.
To tear down another person does not elevate you. It never has and never will. Be it about what someone is wearing, their faith, their job or whatever. Listen to what you are saying!
You know you can either give someone and hand up if you have the resources, or you can give them a push up if you only have love to offer. Both of those things lift everyone up and the world gets better. Rip them down and the word of hurt you are creating is the same one you have to live in. Choose.
Ending rant here.