BEST questions ever.
I think out of all the things we can ask either ourselves or other people is a genuine why. I say genuine because I don’t mean anything like the broken record whys of a child.
Nor do I mean the half-hearted feigned interest that occasionally comes our way.
And I also don’t meant the kind of why that we don’t expect or really want an answer too. You know, the kind we cry out when something really bad happens. That one we might ask again later but at the time is really just a release of emotions; not really a cry for information.
But think about it. The who, what, when, where and even the how are just facts. They might be personal or they might be important. But nothing, NOTHING touches us so deeply as the why…the reasons behind it all.
This is where the emotional stuff lies don’t you think?
I know if you look in past posts you’ll find me talking about people who are sleep walking through life. I’ve done that at times but for most of my life I really was searching for more. I was ‘awake’ but didn’t understand it. It has only been recently that I realized how much of my life I have created myself, through the choices I make and the way that I think and percieve things.
I didn’t look closely enough at the why.
Many years back, I realized I was only l happy when I lived from my own set of core values. I knew this before I really even understood what that meant. When I did that, I was far more peaceful, even when things didn’t work out.
Still, it wasn’t until I caught on to the power of that little three-lettered word ‘why’ that I was able to start understanding my own motivations; my own path.
Things got infinitely better when I also stopped expecting an answer to that little word from other people and started asking it to myself.
- why did I feel like this?
- why do I react this way?
- why do I allow that to continue?
Why. That simple question rarely has a simple answer when applied to your own life. But it leads to understanding and truth. It leads to more questions that are on a much deeper, truthful level. Oh..”why”, I do love that word even though it can cause me a great deal of initial discomfort. Truth often does. In fact there was something I read not long ago that made me laugh because it’s so often true. It said “the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
Now, when I start feeling upset, stressed I ask myself why. Where is this coming from? Where is the truth of what matters? And it’s often not enough to just touch the surface. Most of the time there is more there if we keep digging…keep asking why. Hmm..I guess we sometimes are a little like that annoying child who keeps asking why. Still, there is merit to this.
We have surface, easy to face reasons for doing things; but with a little more poking around we may find some surprising truths behind our first layers of why.
Why matters. It matters a lot. I think it could very well be the most important part of many of our decisions and we don’t really spend enough time exploring it.
How often do you really dig deep into your why? And how often do you keep digging til the whole truth reveals itself?