Please raise your hand if this applies to you. If thing are going too well, how many of start to get nervous?
C’mon now..don’t be shy. I know I’m not the only one. And it’s no longer being blamed on my being a Libra either!
Life has a way of ebbs and flows that I used to think had to even out somewhere. So in my mind if something good happened that meant something equally bad was going to also appear to ‘even’ out things.
Crazy right?
Maybe, but I don’t think I was or am alone. There is a reason we have sayings like ‘waiting for the other shoe to drop’ right? Or the idea of ‘walking a tight rope”. It seems the idea of Life Balance may be a little off.
Why on earth do we assume that we can’t simply have an overall happy life with a few blips along the way? Instead we prefer to think that the world is out to ‘get’ us, that we will be victims of something or other if we don’t worry enough and be vigilant.
Boy oh boy does this suck the life right out of us.
Have you ever stopped to think that this might be true only because we make it so? I have noticed that there is a limit to what is acceptable happiness. Kind of like a glass ceiling of sorts and if we get to close to feeling just blissfully happy we start to pull away from it.
Holy Crap….as a society as we afraid of being too happy???
We worry about being too happy, we worry about being depressed, we worry, worry, worry! Heck we even talk about how worried we are as if it is the thing to be doing. 
I wonder, how uncomfortable would it feel for you to reply to the question “how are you?” with “I’m really quite happy and joyful”? But we are all perfectly okay with replying to the same question with “oh my goodness I feel awful” or “okay I guess” or “I’ve had better days”.
We are all so accepting of everyone being miserable that we are hardly concerned when someone tells us they are. This is concerning. How will we ever hear a cry for help is all we hear is this sort of thing?
Why is one socially okay but not the other? Is it a misery loves company sort of thing? Hmmm.
I know that my thoughts create my reality and I know my thoughts become my words and actions. SO perhaps what we need to do is start allowing the positives, the blessings to be what we say and do.
It’s time to make being happy the normal, and being down in the dumps unusual.
So, I’m going to try a little experiment and I hope you join me. For the next week or so I’m only going to talk about how great things are and I won’t be awkward about feeling good. I am going to share how blessed I feel, how grateful I am for what I have in my life rather than complain I don’t have everything perfect (yet). I’m going to cheer and celebrate when something good happens and downplay the not-so-good. You know..the reverse of what most of us do now.
I want to see how others react. Will they be uncomfortable, annoyed or join me in my positive thinking?
What do you think? Will you help me with this experiment?
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Love the idea. Especially since I started doing things with Peter Taylor and read his Don’t Postpone Joy. Every day is so precious
Everyday is a gift…we really have to remember that Roberta. Can’t wait to hear how you do this week! I know you’ll rock it!
A fellow blogger and I came to this very same conclusion, as we were meandering through our recovery from Sexual abuse, dealing with recurring memories ect., our cries were heard and we had many many responses of the cheering us on type. Once we hit the healing and became more joyful and positive in our posts our following left us. the same reason for rubber-necking on the highway at the scene of an accident.
I have been showing joy on a much more regular basis regardless of what others think of me, I even practice smiling as I go for my walks, grinnin’ at the grass and rocks as I walk by, simply pleased to be outdoors.
this is all very uplifting as was your post. Thank you.
It’s hard to imagine that someone would not be ready for joy isn’t it? I suppose it reminds us that we cannot all be at the same place in the road. Keep on blogging and I bet you will find more followers who are ready for what you have to offer Tumultuousjourney!
Count me in, Bonnie. I absolutely agree with what you said in this post. It’s time to make being happy the normal, and being down in the dumps unusual.
Right on!
Yeah! I knew you’d be in on this Janette! You are so full of joy already. I am going to do a sort of daily update on my fan page about how this is going as well as another blog dedicated to it. Let me know what happens with you there too please? https://www.facebook.com/LivingFabulous
My best and I (both Librans!) were just having this discussion the other day. We just blame the Libran in us…
But more importantly, yes, I need to learn to do that. To appreciate what I have right now and be in the moment and be thankful for whatever we have!
Ah…so it wasn’t just me with the “But I’m a Libra…it’s not my fault” excuse huh? lol The only way to practice being joyful is..well practice. So off we go Hajra…all of us Libras learning to tip the scales in our favour.
I’m in with you, Bonnie! Sounds like a great idea!
I have often found myself thinking the exact same things. It seems to me as I’ve become a lot more optimistic and positive, it comes across to many as being annoying or self-consumed. That’s never my intention. I just feel that I am responsible for the energy I possess and that which I send out to others. I see it as being accountable to the fact.
A few years ago, I was a lot more angry and negative. You’d be surprise how much response I was getting on social media platforms from people chiming in on how bad life sucks. As soon as I changed the station of my energy, my then cheering squad vanished and rarely ever respond to anything I post.
Here’s the thing, I now am more aware that I am fully responsible to my life. I shape it, craft it, and have the power to speak whatever I want into existence. That self-awareness has enlightened not to take that inner power lightly. So I commend you and those who will be joining us in this celebration of life called joyful living challenge!
Yaaaahoooo! Let’s go! 
Ah..I should have known you’d be first on the scene for something like this Deone. You and I share a path that is so similiar sometimes I wonder that fate didn’t bring us together on purpose!
I have come to realize that it isnt’ my place to judge others journeys. I used to get frustrated when people chose to get stuck where they were and seemed quite content. Perhaps they learned what they came to this planet to learn? Perhaps they just were not ready to move yet? Or maybe they were learning lessons I had no business in and couldn’t see.
When you change it upsets the balance and it takes time to regain that. It is so easy to slip back isnt’ it?
I love you Deone for all that you do and you have a cheering squad that also loves you. Keep speaking your beautiful light into existence.
I’ll be sharing my joyful practice on my fan page…let me know how it goes for you over there too okay? I love how social media lets us learn from each other.
https://www.facebook.com/LivingFabulous