I’ve not been well for a few days and it’s really caught up with me. I’ve been trying to do too much and not allowing my body to rest as it so desperately wants to.
The bigger problem is that the stuff I have pushed myself to do is crap or only half done. So now I really have to re-do it and I strongly dislike having to do that. That is making me feel stressed and irritable.
Even worse than that…I’ve gone too long without proper rest and now I’m short on patience and grumpy.
I was woken up this morning far too early and was already in a ‘mood’. I’m sure we’ve all had those kinds of mornings where you just know it’s going to be one of ‘those’ days.
I haven’t been disappointed.
So far this morning I have spilled coffee on my keyboard, tripped over the dog and smacked my elbow, burned my breakfast, lost a document into the nether regions of the internet, succeeded in worrying about what hasn’t been done and now I’ve worked my stress level into the “I give up” phase.
It’s been a while since this kind of crap sandwich has been served this early in the morning around here. I figured I’d go have a quick nap on the couch and maybe start over feeling a bit better with some rest. I’ll be darned if the dog didn’t beat me to it already.
Grrrr.
So I sit back down at my computer, keys dried off and new cup of coffee in hand. I opened my twitter to see this quote.
You need to have a bad day once in a while, otherwise, you’ll never know what a good day feels like.
Ha! Divine whispers right? And that’s when I was jogged back into myself and remembered I get a choice in how I feel. I also get a choice in how I react to the ‘stuff’ in my life. I get it,
Yup, this is how I feel today
I’m worn out, still a bit sick and probably need to just chill out. Instead of taking care of myself, I’m trying to be a freakin super hero and in the end only really hitting super-grumpy, super-stressed and super-anxious. (oh Hey..that would be some really hilarious super villains no?)
Who the heck was I trying to impress anyway? Yes, I had a rough morning. I allowed it to make me angry and frustrated and was about to start playing angry tag. You know…sharing the mood and feeding everyone else my crap sandwich appetizer. Not how I want to spend a whole, blessed, gift of a day!
So…time to do some self adjustment and self care so that I instead find the happy in today.
Sometimes you are just better off giving yourself a bit of a shake and spending the time reducing the anxiety, frustration and crappy feeling. It’s that whole investing in yourself bit you know? I mean..who wants to walk around feeling like that? Not me and I certainly don’t want to be the cause of other people ending up feeling that way too.
So, today is a recoup day. A day for healing, a day for releasing the negativity. A day that I need to remind myself to show ME some compassion and consideration. It’s too easy to be hard on myself and get frustrated. I’d never treat another that way and expect them to do everything as normal when they are ill, so it’s time to stop doing it to myself.
I have a feeling it might take a while so I’m going to go ahead and make another cup of coffee. I am going to spend part of my day making a plan to methodically get my to-do list done. I will prioritize and break down some steps to help with the overwhelm from getting a bit behind. That’s what will make me feel less stressed out and more in control. Then later I will take my dog for run…exercise out the stress!
What is your go-to default to help you get back into a good mood when you’ve had a rough go of things?
As you can probably imagine, Bonnie, this project I’ve been working on has delivered more of these kind of days than I can count. There were some days when nothing worth writing would come to my head, and I would find myself so frustrated with myself. As if, that was going to bring something for me to write down. Need I say that it didn’t?
Those would turn out to be my “Nothing in Particular” Day’s. On those days I wouldn’t plan anything, but I would find something… anything.. to do. If it meant reading a good book, listening to a Tony Robbins or Denis Waitley series, or even just put on the Relaxation station of Pandora. Whatever I did, it would have nothing to do with the thing that caused the frustration. That usually did the trick for me. Shortly afterwards I was back at it writing my heart away.
Yes, you certainly DO know what I mean don’t you. A Nothing In Particular Day can help a whole host of things and it seems writer’s block is included!
I can’t wait to see your finished product and see it fly out into the world. Whohoo!
aarrrrrggghhhh… just lost my post… forgot about the login issue…
What I said was I know exactly what you’re going through and where you’re at. Today I’m in a foul mood while working with my husband’s new insurance. ACK! But I’m talking to myself: “Just Breathe! Settle down; this is the only thing you need to deal with today!”
I agree with Lynn that Divine Intervention happens wherever and whenever it’s needed.
Working with a team can bring frustration too if not all are doing their part or giving you what you need to do yours.
What can I do to support you? How can I help?
Hey Peggy, Your post was just waiting moderation, no worries! I think you are so fabulous for going the extra mile to log in to comment. Thank you my friend! That in and of itself made my day so much better…how lucky I am to have found such wonderful people!
That tweet that you received? Maybe consider it divine ‘virtual’ intervention! I’m so glad you shared this with us Bonnie. We are human, can only do so much, especially each and every day.
So bravo to you Bonnie for knowing it is ‘okay’ to have a bad day and then take a day off to give back to yourself. It is a wonderful reminder to us all.
So you’re saying my dear Lynn, that the divine is all over and up to snuff on the social media stuff? Oh that is Awesome to think about! lol The universe will talk if only we will bother to listen.
It can be hard when you have a pile of things on the to-do list to buy into how taking a bit of time to recoup will actually make that list go away faster but it is true. Beside..who wants a grumpala running around!?
Self adjustment and self care, that’s the way to go. have you heard of tapping or EFT. Would be great for you. There’s a free manual at my site. You don’t even have to leave an email address.
Hope that helps.
Madonna
Great post! I usually step away from the computer and do something totally different for a while. Something that doesn’t require any thinking, like doing the dishes, doing my nails or taking a foot bath. After that, if my bad mood was because I didn’t get things done at the computer, I write down what I need to do before stepping back at the computer.
I have days when everything goes so smooth and then days when anything I do doesn’t seem to go right. In those days I try to let myself be non-productive and to learn to laugh at myself
Ah yes! Laughter really dispells the dark clouds. Thanks for sharing what you do as well. Perhaps I need to lighten up today with some laughing.
Go out and let our your scream. Then, you will be able to return readjusted- and ready to smile…
Agreed Roy. Sometimes you just need to let it out!