Two F-words we hear far too much in my opinion. Fear and Failure. It’s even worse when we put them together in a sentence. Fear of Failure.
I had to stop a client this past week during our session to talk about this. We were talking about something she was interested in doing and I asked about what things were holding her back. A few things were mentioned including that she was afraid of failing which she then qualified with but that’s nothing.
I had to do it, I back her up and ask more about this. As we explored it, the realization that this fear of failure has kept her from many things in the past and is keeping her from moving forward in a variety of things. So what’s the deal with pushing it to the side and acting like it isn’t an issue?
I’ve learned a few things about fear and failure over time. What do you think?
- fear is a legitimate feeling, embrace it and face it to get past it. There is no other way.
- the things we fear are rarely as bad as we think.
- information is the key to reducing the fear, especially the fear of failure.
- shoving fear away and acting like it isn’t there often gives it strength and creates a roadblock.
- failure is nothing to fear if you change your view on it. It can be the end or a step to success.
To ignore your fear is foolish. These emotions are just as much a part of who you are as any other feeling. Fear happens when something out of the ordinary is taking place. It can be a good thing; a signal that you are growing and moving forward. Fearing failure is perfectly okay. Accept that and realize that this too is because you are trying something new and reaching further than you have reached before.
Change your view on this or enjoy staring at that roadblock you’ve created. The choice is really yours. Just because I adore all of you I am also going to help you out with three NEW f-words that are ones you should use; and often.