I have some bad news for some people out there in the world. I suspect they already kind of know about it though. Either way, here goes!
A lot of people want to improve their life through finding balance, affirming who they are, creating their purpose and finding their passions.
Unfortunately a lot of people also want to do this quick and easy. They want a magic pill in the form of that one great workshop, the best-selling book or that one deep and insightful guru who can explain it all.
That’s not going to happen. There! I said it, the bad news it out!
I bet a few of you are wondering why I keep talking about living from your core values or finding your purpose at this point right?
The thing is my friends, you can do all those things you crave but there is no magic pill. You have to do the work, put in some effort and sometimes be willing to risk, fail and try again. Sometimes it’s hard. And that’s okay. This is how we learn what really matters.
I always say I ‘try’ to live and make my life choices from my values. I say ‘try’ because sometimes I falter. I can’t imagine anyone who doesn’t from time to time. How is it possible to have nothing left to learn? Sometimes making choices based on my truth is scary and to be honest I sometimes get myself in some ‘interesting’ situations. Hmmm, even precarious!
So why bother right? Why not live the easier way of conformity and quiet acceptance of what society tells me to think and feel?
Let me explain it this way. If I have a tough situation I have two ways to handle it..kind of like a band-aide that needs to come off. I can live from my personal values and face the music quick and fast like pulling the band-aide off suddenly. Or, I can ignore my values and make poor personal choices like when you slowly pull off the band-aide. In the last way, I prolong the lower level uncomfortable situation; dragging it out unnecessarily causing me a lot more unhappiness and stress. Or like the quick pull I deal with it, face it and then can be peaceful much quicker.
The crappy uncomfortable situation still needs to be dealt with. The difference? When I go to sleep at night I rest easy knowing I have stayed true to myself.
Fight it or embrace it life is going to happen anyway.