I have some bad news for some people out there in the world. I suspect they already kind of know about it though. Either way, here goes!
A lot of people want to improve their life through finding balance, affirming who they are, creating their purpose and finding their passions.
Unfortunately a lot of people also want to do this quick and easy. They want a magic pill in the form of that one great workshop, the best-selling book or that one deep and insightful guru who can explain it all.
That’s not going to happen. There! I said it, the bad news it out!
I bet a few of you are wondering why I keep talking about living from your core values or finding your purpose at this point right?
The thing is my friends, you can do all those things you crave but there is no magic pill. You have to do the work, put in some effort and sometimes be willing to risk, fail and try again. Sometimes it’s hard. And that’s okay. This is how we learn what really matters.
I always say I ‘try’ to live and make my life choices from my values. I say ‘try’ because sometimes I falter. I can’t imagine anyone who doesn’t from time to time. How is it possible to have nothing left to learn? Sometimes making choices based on my truth is scary and to be honest I sometimes get myself in some ‘interesting’ situations. Hmmm, even precarious!
So why bother right? Why not live the easier way of conformity and quiet acceptance of what society tells me to think and feel?
Let me explain it this way. If I have a tough situation I have two ways to handle it..kind of like a band-aide that needs to come off. I can live from my personal values and face the music quick and fast like pulling the band-aide off suddenly. Or, I can ignore my values and make poor personal choices like when you slowly pull off the band-aide. In the last way, I prolong the lower level uncomfortable situation; dragging it out unnecessarily causing me a lot more unhappiness and stress. Or like the quick pull I deal with it, face it and then can be peaceful much quicker.
The crappy uncomfortable situation still needs to be dealt with. The difference? When I go to sleep at night I rest easy knowing I have stayed true to myself.
Fight it or embrace it life is going to happen anyway.
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Yes, Bonnie, coaching, mentoring and training is what all up-coming entrepreneurs, small online ebiz owners and industry specific professionals should be budgeting into their marketing plan.
As you say Bonnie, too many folks are frustrated and confused, especially now with this social media madness. If you are coached, one-on-one, you reap a tremendous value for your specific business and goals.
If you are throwing money at ebooks and programs for the general public, it doesn’t address the specific business owner. So yes, I so much agree with people searching out for a good coach to invest time and yes, you will have to pay some money, coaches have to pay bills too — but we offer so much value that can be taken away and implemented immediately into your business.
Oops! sorry – but I get all excited when I am asked that question! Thanks Bonnie!!
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The simple reality here: if it were quick and easy, everyone would be doing it.. That’s why there is so much of a gap between those that get things done and those that live in regret, I find.. And some of us are teetering on that fine line. I’m one of them but I focus on my WHY and it keeps me pushing forward, making necessary course corrections here and there.
Thanks for sharing this via Twitter! =oD
You are really on the ball Yogizilla! The why is one of the most important parts of our moving forward.
It is bad news Bonnie, but unfortunately many people need to hear it and I’m glad you put it out there.
There is no magic pill or golden egg and yet, so many still feel like some day someone is going to say, there really is such a thing. I always say you have to step out, get out of your comfort zone, because it does take work — a lot of work to succeed in life and in business.
Thank you for sharing and being open about this topic.
Hi Lynn,
I think that the ‘work’ is what ends up stopping so many people these days. Add to that the frustration and confustion that often comes with change and you’ve got a whirlwind of stuff to block you. That’s why coaching works to help folks don’t you think?
Was just tweeting when SNIOP came to mind. SNIOP = subject negative influence other people. It was an expression several years ago where people seemed to always be putting others down and getting them to compromise on their values. It led to stress,
Thanks for sharing
Bonnie stay true to yourself always. If you know you always tried your best then other people’s opinions are theirs and I just wish they would keep them to themselves unless I am breaking the law or about to hurt myself or others.
Hi Roberta,
I had never heard of SNIOP. I am going to check that out, thanks!.
I do try to stay true to myself but some days it is not easy is it? I think my awareness of the struggle is what is important for me right and what is making me a better coach. Thanks for you supportive nature. It is a blessing to so many.
I’m so relieved you didn’t have some personal crisis to share with us, Bonnie. Whenever I see the words, “bad news”, appear in the title of anything my dear blogging buddies are posting … it instantly gives me pause for concern.
Whew! You’re okay.
You’re absolutely, 100% correct — “life is going to happen” no matter what our choices. The world will keep spinning on its axis whether we make good decisions or not.
I guess it’s primal human nature at play to yearn for that “magic wand” or “silver bullet” or, aptly put … the directions for how to get to Easy Street! Well, guess what? Easy Street is NOT on the map.
I know. I’ve checked several times … just in case. LOL!
oh Geesh Melanie..sorry to startle you like that. But thanks for caring and checking..you are so lovely.
Although I had to chuckle at you ‘Easy Street” not being on the map comment it actually made me pause. If someone I admire as much as you has felt the need to look it up (so to speak) then it really give hope to others who are in that same place. Thanks Melanie!
OXOX
This blog post is right up my alley! Soul sisters for sure. Your photo made me laugh out loud. I so agree that it takes time, effort and resources to create lasting transformation. Consider that it has taken years to build up our default tendencies, automatic ways of responding, inner critic messages.
If we could change that on our own and “just do it”, we would. Coaching costs money AND most coaches have a wide range of services including self-guided programs, group coaching and individual AND we’re talking about the value of changing your life ~ which is priceless, really. Every dollar I have invested in coaching has helped me create a life of ease, peace, 90% less stress and a business I enjoy that changes the lives of others.
To me, generating a life I could love again after losing years to grieving, reducing stress so I have the energy and vitality to stay healthy and dance six nights a week because I love it…you just cannot put a price on this. And I still work with a coach to live the biggest life I can imagine and beyond.
Oh..best compliment ever! Soul sister to you Tambre
You added a very valuable point. Change takes resources. Ohhh..you’ve got me thinking already about the different levels of that being so very true. Hugs!
very true and well said.
Thank you Jan