One part of your life is affected by all others and all other parts of your life affects the one part. Confused yet? It is (at the risk of sounding hokey) another one of those circle of life things. There is no getting around this. You can compartmentalize your life until you have nice neat little packages but you still have to understand that any change in any of these packages affects every other one.
It can be quite helpful to separate things and aspects of our lives in order to focus. Looking at your life as a whole can be a bit overwhelming of course. Do not for a minute however think that you can ‘fix’ one part of your life completely without it having an effect into and from other parts of your life.
Some like to call this the ‘ripple’ effect. Much has been written over time about this but I think we forget that it is a reciprocal process. It can be interesting and wise to view any changes you make to one small area of your life, as a change to your entire life. How will this affect everything? How will THAT affect the small part of your life you hoped to work on? Quite the perplexing run-on thought isn’t it? It is perpetually happening.
Let’s take an example from one of my coaching clients, let’s call her Jane. Today she decided that she will be completely give up on meat and no longer shall it pass her lips. She’s been wavering on this for a while and finally made the leap. Great right? Surely this only affects her eating habits. Not so fast. Let’s consider how this affects the rest of Jane’s life. Restaurants? Friends responses? Spouse response? What about family meals? Health wise is this sound? Work events? Emotionally is she prepared to defend her choice? All other aspects of Jane’s life is changed at least slightly by this one choice. These changes in other aspects can make her new-found meat-less diet difficult to handle if she is not prepared for these eventualities.
This can work FOR you as well! Think about how making a healthier choice in your diet, or finally beginning that research into your book or whatever will positively affect your life. Feeling healthier, energized and satisfied will increase your happiness with life in a general way too. Happy isn’t a place, it is a state of being and if you are doing things in one area to increase your happiness that will spill over into the rest of your life and make other things easier to handle.
Why is this important? Because many of us get frustrated and overwhelmed trying to fix every single issue we have right now. Frustrations leads us to eventually throw our hands up in despair and give it up as impossible, too hard or foolish. Why must we do this to ourselves when one small change can make such a huge ripple effect?
You cannot fix it all, at least not all at once. Pick one thing you know you can work through and go for it. Start today! Celebrate your success and watch how it ripples through your life. Then you can more easily move onto the next thing knowing you can do it .
So my challenge to you is to find one thing that you can work with, and start today to actually do it! What will that be for you?